In the series that follows, Charlotte Divorce Lawyer Blog will explore twenty signs from an article on Yahoo.com which may indicate that a person has a substance abuse problem. Substance abuse is a very common issue in divorce and other family law matters, so we think it is useful to be aware of common signs.

1. Quality Control
Over time, a substance abuser is very likely to build a tolerance to whatever substance they are abusing. Over time, you may notice that the person fills his glass more often than others. Similarly, prescription drug users will start going through their prescription faster and faster. Prescription drug abusers will often complain that they “ran out” or that “the doctor forgot to renew my prescription.” Sometimes the person won’t remember taking all of their pills and will acuse others of stealing them.

2. Hide and Seek Around the House
Often times a substance abuser will hide bottles around the house. They may hide a six pack in the garage or a bottle of liquor hidden behind the cleaning products. These might be signs that someone’s drinking has gotten out of control. Over time, they will develop a network of hiding places. They may become particularly protective of certain rooms or areas of the house or garage, insisting that they be kept private. There may a sense that they are guarding the alcohol itself.

3. The Disappearing Act
When it comes to drug addiction, it is often that items around the house start disappearing. Like checks are missing from the checkbook, sometimes taken from the middle of the checkbook rather than the back of it. The need for money and the desire for the substance make anything fair game. They might start pawning family items like cameras and jewelry or family heirlooms.

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According to an article by Yahoo and Match.com, your birth order can have a significant impact on your love life. If you are the oldest child, you are a take-charge type of person and this trait carries over to your love life. Oldest kids are the planners and they are going to do the big sha-bang on anniversaries and Valentine’s Day. Their biggest love challenge is being more spontaneous. They aren’t the “seize the day” types and they hate surprises. Their best match is with a youngest child.

Rather than being insecure messes (a commonly held belief), middle kids are actually stable and loyal partners. Growing up feeling like they get less attention drives them to work for every perk. They tend to be good compromisers and negotiators. They are good at giving their partner plenty of input on decisions and their days should be free of petty squables.

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In this issue we take a look at recent divorce court rulings from around the country and let you be the divorce judge! Also, we note several alimony and spousal support rulings from around the country where the court held that a wife was entitled to be compensated for her contributions to the husband’s hefty earning capacity later in life (one example is a wife of a dentist who worked to put him through dental school). We also consider cases (including one which we recently discussed on Charlotte Divorce Lawyer Blog from North Carolina) involving same sex couples and child custody.

Click here to view and print our Charlotte Divorce Attorney Blog Family Law Newsletter – Spring 2011:

CHARLOTTE DIVORCE LAWYER BLOG FAMILY LAW NEWSLETTER SPRING 2011

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The last reason cited by the article by Match.com on Yahoo.com why men cheat is to pursue the one that got away. The example from the article is about a guy who cheated on his girlfriend of six months because a girl he had the hots for came on to him. This other girl had been with someone else for a long time, so she was off limits. But, when she came available and hit on him, it was more than he could resist.

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Another one that will surely come as a shock: according to Match.com and Yahoo.com, the seventh reason men cheat is to get a sorely needed shot of self esteem. The example cited in the article is about a man who was always shy and never felt comfortable approaching women. He was in a relationship with a woman who was just as shy. Their relationship was okay, but nothing great.

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According to Match.com and Yahoo.com, the sixth reason why men cheat is because there is too much drama in the current relationship. The example cited involves a guy who used to fight all the time with his ex. He and his ex formerly lived together. There was constant tension in the relationship and it made him miserable. He met a woman who was just the opposite of his ex. She was easygoing, friendly and fun.

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Accorcding to Match.com and Yahoo.com, the fifth reason that men cheat is because of emotional and/or lifestyle incompatibility. The example cited by the article involves a couple who met in a Weight Watchers meeting. The guy took the program very seriously and lost weight very quickly whereas the woman did not strictly follow the program and she didn’t lose weight. After the guy lost the weight, he was newly confident and had women approaching him who had never spoken to him before.

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This one will come as a complete shocker: according to this article by Match.com men cheat because they want to play the field! This seems to be a result of “the grass is always greener” kind of thinking which seems prevalent in our society. Maybe it is because of pop culter, television, or the egocentric, live for the moment type of mentality which seems so prevalent in our society.

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According to this article on Yahoo.com by Match.com, another reason men cheat is because you are spending almost no time together as a couple. A common example of this sort of situation is where the significant other travels for a living. If the person is physically absent from the daily life of their significant other, then it can be difficult for the couple to remain emotionally engaged with one another.

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According to the article by Match.com on Yahoo.com, men cheat because the chemistry just isn’t there. They cheat because the spark is gone in the relationship. According to the article, this can have much to do with a lack of physical attraction to the other person. For example, if the wife or girlfriend (hopefully only a girlfriend!) isn’t the guy’s type, it could lead to the guy losing interest and possibly cheating.

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