Attorney Matthew R. Arnold answering the question: “What rules are there for Father’s Right in NC?”

Former professional basketball player Allen Iverson’s already messy divorce appears to be getting worse. Just this past week his ex-wife, Tawanna Iverson, filed documents with a family law court saying that the former Philadelphia 76ers star has taken the couple’s five children and refused to return them.

The latest incident is one in a long string of custody fights the couple has engaged in since they initiated the divorce process. In February, Tawanna won full custody after a family law judge decided that Allen was not capable of managing the children in his current state. The judge ordered that Allen begin seeing a psychiatrist and attend AA meetings for at least one year. Allen was only granted visitation rights in specific circumstances, including that he not consume alcohol within 24 hours of a visit.

Basketball Charlotte North Carolina Divorce Family Law Child Support Alimony Divorce Lawyer.jpgThe family law judge said that Allen was at times a hindrance to the development of his children and that, if he wanted to see more of them, he would have to invest some time into learning more appropriate ways of interacting with them. Allen called the decision unfair and one-sided and appealed, an appeal he lost in March of this year.

In this most recent case, Tawanna claims Allen has refused to return the five children after he took them for an alleged vacation, something Tawanna believes may never have even happened. According to the court documents, Allen asked permission to take the children to Charlotte, NC for several days in late May for a short vacation. However, when Allen was supposed to return the children they were nowhere to be found. Tawanna claims she tried to set up an exchange at a neutral location, a nearby Target, but that Allen never bothered to show up. Tawanna says she has reliable information that Allen never took the children to Charlotte at all and instead is staying with them at a Sheraton in Atlanta.

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Attorney Matthew R. Arnold answering the question: “My wife and I are not getting along If I leave the house, can she get me for abandonment?”

Jane Lynch and her wife of three years, Lara Embry, have decided to split. The couple issued a statement saying that while the two deeply care about one another, they have decided to part ways.

Glee Charlotte Divorce Lawyer Attorney Child Custody Support.jpgLynch, who is famous for playing coach Sue Sylvester on “Glee”, married Embry, a psychologist, in 2010 in Massachusetts. The couple met at a fundraiser in 2009 and hit it off right away. Embry had two young children at the time the two met, one of which lived full time with the couple after the wedding.

The divorce will mark the end of Lynch’s time as a stepmother given that she has no legal rights or responsibility over the children since that they were the product of Embry’s earlier marriage. It’s a sad split for Lynch who recently gave an interview to People Magazine where she discussed how close she had become with Embry’s children and how amazing it felt to have children to care for.

Lynch’s marriage calls to mind the split last year of one of the first gay couples to marry in California, Robin Tyler and Diane Olson. The pair was part of the original group of same-sex couples who challenged the state’s same-sex marriage ban back in 2008. The two women had known each other for 40 years and were a couple for 18. Despite being a poster child for gay and lesbian rights, Tyler said that in the end, they were only human and couldn’t help running into difficult times. In the end, the marriage simply ran its course.

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Attorney Matthew R. Arnold answering the question: “What children’s expenses are covered by child support?”

Russian President Vladimir Putin and his soon-to-be ex-wife Lyudmila announced last week that they would be divorcing after 30 years of marriage. The split appears to be caused by the strains of Putin’s job.

In a press conference, Putin and Lyudmila said that they had gradually grown apart over the last several years since Putin assumed power. Apparently the stress and ceremonial obligations took a toll on Lyudmila who said she much preferred a private life not in the spotlight. In words that echo those of many couples who have grown apart due to one spouse’s demanding job, the two said that they had begun to live separate lives and would sometimes go days or weeks without talking. Putin Charlotte Divorce Lawyer Attorney Child Support.jpg

Though you would think the divorce might set up an epic brawl, the two promised that the split would remain amicable and civilized. The couple has two adult children and say they want to keep things calm for them and for the country. The two say they recognized the demands of the Russian presidency had turned them into different people than when they first met and said the divorce was best for everyone involved.

Putin’s marriage has been the subject of some discussion for years now in Russia and internationally as many reporters took note of how rarely Lyudmila was seen standing beside her husband. Last year rumors surfaced that Putin had begun an affair with a young Russian gymnast and many wonder whether that affair was the straw that broke the camel’s back and led to the recent split.

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Attorney Matthew R. Arnold answering the question: “What does uncontested divorce mean?”

Surprising new data from the U.S. Census and the Pew Research Center reveal that women are the sole or primary breadwinners in four out of 10 American households with children. That number represents a huge increase from the 11 percent of households with breadwinning women in 1960. The level also represents a record high for female financial power but speaks to other potential problems on the home front that come with changes in economic clout.

Bread Family Law Divorce Attorney Lawyer Charlotte Alimony.jpgSurveys done by Pew reveal that while women might hold more power over the pocketbooks, many still believe children are better off with stay at home mothers. The data showed that 51% of those interviewed said that children are better in households with a stay at home mom. Only 8% of those surveyed said the same thing about fathers. Even more surprising was that half of those surveyed agreed with the statement that the number of working women makes it harder for marriages to succeed.

The researchers behind the data say that the numbers show Americans are of two minds about the new role of women in the family and the workplace. On the one hand, more and more families are embracing the earning power of two incomes and welcoming the loosening of traditional roles. On the other hand, many lament the loss of traditional family life and say more modern roles have harmed marriages.

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Attorney Matthew R. Arnold answering the question: “Do I need an attorney to get a Divorce in North Carolina?”

In our continuing series of articles based on the Yahoo piece by Ronnie Tyler about seven important reasons to end a bad relationship, we’ve now reached the final bit of advice. The first reason to get out of a bad marriage is because you deserve better. Second, because your children deserve better. Three is because your spouse won’t change (at least not in the time that you want them to). Number four is that someone has to take the first step. The fifth reason is because your environment should not define your state of mind. Number six is because you have to remember that you are in control of your own happiness. Finally, the seventh reason to end a bad marriage is because you never know what life has in store.

Tyler says that she has learned that life is an ever-changing journey and no one knows where the ride will go next. Even in some of the darkest moments, hope of change lies just around the corner. If you are stuck in a dead-end relationship you may not remember what love felt like but that doesn’t mean your good days are behind you. red-number-7 Charlotte Divorce Lawyer Attorney.jpg

For one thing, there’s always a chance to make a change and start anew with your current partner. Once you decide that enough is enough and set your mind to either fixing things you might be shocked at how quickly change starts to happen. Shaking up a stale marriage might turn out to be the best decision for both parties who are later able to reconnect and find a new and deeper love.

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Attorney Matthew R. Arnold answering the question: “What does a “No-Fault’ divorce mean in NC?”

In our continuing saga of posts based on the Yahoo piece by Ronnie Tyler about seven important reasons to end a bad relationship, we have now reached the sixth piece of advice. The first reason to get out of a bad marriage is because you deserve better. Second, because your children deserve better. Three is because your spouse won’t change (at least not in the time that you want them to). Number four is that someone has to take the first step. The fifth reason is because your environment should not define your state of mind. Number six is because you have to remember that you are in control of your own happiness.

Number 6 Charlotte Family Law Attorney Lawyer Child Support Alimony.jpgTyler says that people who are stuck in a difficult marriage need to take a deep breath and, though it might be hard, own up to their role in the problems. Playing a victim is not only a pointless waste of time, but also a good way to avoid taking responsibility for the part you played in creating the relationship trouble. Though you may not be the one engaging in destructive behavior, it always takes two to tango. You may have permitted bad behavior to go on for too long or sent mixed messages about what kind of treatment you would tolerate from your significant other.

Regardless of the issue, take stock of your situation and then take responsibility, it is the only way to move forward according to Tyler. Once you have acknowledged your own responsibility for the relationship trouble, it is important to take time to come up with some measurable goals to improve things. Don’t just sit back and wait for things to get better, chances are they never will. Improvement only happens with effort on someone’s part.

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Attorney Matthew R. Arnold answering the question: “Does adultery affect who gets custody?”

In our continuing saga of posts based on the Yahoo piece by Ronnie Tyler about seven important reasons to end a bad relationship, we have now reached the fourth piece of advice. The first reason Tyler offered up to consider getting out of a bad marriage is because you deserve better. The second is that your children deserve better. Three was because your spouse won’t change (at least not in the time that you want them to). Number four was because someone has to take the first step and now, number five: because your environment should not define your state of mind.

Tyler says that it is important in the midst of relationship problems to not let your issues Number 5 Charlotte Divorce Attorney Lawyer Child Support Alimony.jpgconsume your entire way of thinking. Sure, things might be bad at home, but that does not mean you have to adopt a negative outlook on life. Also, just because there are problems does not mean the problems cannot be overcome through hard work and honest communication.

Too many people fall into a trap of thinking that the problems experienced by themselves or their spouses are larger than they actually are. Take a step back, try and maintain some perspective on your relationship issues. You are not the first couple to experience problems and you won’t be the last. Realize that you have options and are not stuck in a bad situation for the rest of your life.

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Attorney Matthew R. Arnold answering the question: “Can any attorney help me with my family law needs in North Carolina?”

In our continuing saga of posts based on the Yahoo piece by Ronnie Tyler about seven important reasons to end a bad relationship, we have now reached the fourth piece of advice. The first reason Tyler offered up to consider getting out of a bad marriage is because you deserve better. The second is that your children deserve better. Three was because your spouse won’t change (at least not in the time that you want them to). Now for number four: because someone has to take the first step.

Number 4 Charlotte Family Law Divorce Attorney Lawyer.jpgThe conventional wisdom when it comes to relationship advice is that it takes two to tango. People always say that it takes both partners working together to make a relationship work. Marriage counselors say no one spouse can shoulder all the burden of making a marriage healthy and loving. While Tyler agrees that this is usually the case, it is mainly valuable advice for those trying to make a relationship work, not those facing problems.

In the case of couples facing an impasse, the actions of one spouse may be just the trick to get a couple out of a rut and a relationship either back on track or headed for divorce. After all, there is no guarantee that both parties will be on the same page at the same time or that the problems that are bothering one spouse will also be a concern to the other. Rather than sit around and wait for your partner to be bothered by the same thing, it can be a good thing to take action on your own and give your spouse a chance to catch up.

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Attorney Matthew R. Arnold answering the question: “How long does getting a divorce take?”

In our continuing series of articles based on the piece by Ronnie Tyler about seven important reasons to end a bad relationship, we have now reached the third bit of advice. The first reason Tyler gives to consider getting out of a bad marriage is because you deserve better. The second is that your children deserve better. Now for number three: because your spouse won’t change (at least not in the time that you want them to).

This third reason can be a very difficult one for some people to come to grips with. This is especially the case for Type A individuals who are used to exerting control over their lives and those around them. You might think that if you just nag your spouse long enough or insist that some behaviors change then they will finally cave and decide to shape up. Number 3 Charlotte North Carolina Divorce Family Law Attorney Lawyer.jpg

Sadly, that is seldom the case. By the time most people reach marrying age, they have begun to find out who they are and, more importantly, who they are not. Personality habits begin to become deeply ingrained and it can be difficult if not impossible to make wholesale changes in behavior. Though small shifts are always possible, the fact is overnight miracles are seldom ever seen.

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Attorney Matthew R. Arnold answering the question: “How long does getting a divorce take?”

This blog continues our series of posts discussing a recent Yahoo article about reasons to get out of bad marriage.

In the first article, we mentioned the first reason given by Ronnie Tyler, the author of the piece. We discussed how a desire for happiness and a recognition that you deserve better might be a reason to either divorce or make serious changes to a relationship.

Number 2 Family Law Divorce Charlotte Attorney Lawyer jpeg.jpgThis week, the second reason given by Tyler to get out of a bad relationship is because your children deserve better. Though you deserving a happy and fulfilled marriage should be enough of a reason to make a change, many people find it easy to put their own needs last. However, those with children understand how important the parental desire to protect your offspring truly is.

Tyler says that though some people may not have the strength to get out of a bad relationship for themselves, the hope is that they would be able to make the change for their children. Tyler says that parents should consider how the bad relationship might negatively affect the kids. For instance, the fighting and name-calling can send bad messages to impressionable children about what qualifies as a “healthy” relationship. In cases where more serious problems exist, such as infidelity or abuse, getting out becomes essential to shielding your children from a potentially destructive parent.

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