Separation

Substance Abuse and Family Law (2 of 4)

Published on: April 7, 2011 | On behalf of Arnold & Smith, PLLC

6. The Money Magnet
Substance abuse is an expensive habit and drugs and alcohol cost money. This, combined with impaired judgment may lead many people to get into financial trouble by not paying attention to their affairs. Any kind of unusual money behavior can tip off families to drug or alcohol abuse. Bills might not be paid or the adict might start selling possessions on eBay. Coke and speed can send people into manic spending sprees while alcohol can spur gambling binges. Also, the person may ask family members for loans or use their credit card without asking.

7. The Clear Choice
Many alcoholics prefer vodka as their drink of choice because it is clear, looks like water and does not typically have a noticable odor. A dead give away is when a person puts vodka in their thermos and mixes it with their morning coffee. Pay attention if the person goes from their normal drink of choice to vodka or if you taste their drink it and is spiked. Watch grocery receipts too, are they buying large amounts of vodka?

8. Missing in Action
If the person is missing important events like high school graduation or a birthday party, the person may be displaying signs of addiction. Becoming secretive and unreliable is a trademark of addiction. They start to forget appointments, miss important events or come in late to work or school. Maintaining and hiding an addiction takes time and effort. The person may stop by the bar on the way home, then get coffee to sober up. Sneaking around the house is also a tip-off, like sneaking into the bathroom for Visine and to brush their teeth before talking to anyone.

How Birth Order Affects Your Love Life

Published on: April 1, 2011 | On behalf of Arnold & Smith, PLLC

According to an article by Yahoo and Match.com, your birth order can have a significant impact on your love life. If you are the oldest child, you are a take-charge type of person and this trait carries over to your love life. Oldest kids are the planners and they are going to do the big sha-bang on anniversaries and Valentine’s Day. Their biggest love challenge is being more spontaneous. They aren’t the “seize the day” types and they hate surprises. Their best match is with a youngest child.

Rather than being insecure messes (a commonly held belief), middle kids are actually stable and loyal partners. Growing up feeling like they get less attention drives them to work for every perk. They tend to be good compromisers and negotiators. They are good at giving their partner plenty of input on decisions and their days should be free of petty squables.

Men Cheat Because There Is Too Much Drama in the Relationship (Reason #6)

Published on: March 17, 2011 | On behalf of Arnold & Smith, PLLC

According to Match.com and Yahoo.com, the sixth reason why men cheat is because there is too much drama in the current relationship. The example cited involves a guy who used to fight all the time with his ex. He and his ex formerly lived together. There was constant tension in the relationship and it made him miserable. He met a woman who was just the opposite of his ex. She was easygoing, friendly and fun.

Men Cheat Because of Emotional and/or Lifestyle Incompatibility (Reason #5)

Published on: March 15, 2011 | On behalf of Arnold & Smith, PLLC

Accorcding to Match.com and Yahoo.com, the fifth reason that men cheat is because of emotional and/or lifestyle incompatibility. The example cited by the article involves a couple who met in a Weight Watchers meeting. The guy took the program very seriously and lost weight very quickly whereas the woman did not strictly follow the program and she didn’t lose weight. After the guy lost the weight, he was newly confident and had women approaching him who had never spoken to him before.

Men Cheat Because You are Spending Almost No Time Together (Reason #3)

Published on: March 8, 2011 | On behalf of Arnold & Smith, PLLC

According to this article on Yahoo.com by Match.com, another reason men cheat is because you are spending almost no time together as a couple. A common example of this sort of situation is where the significant other travels for a living. If the person is physically absent from the daily life of their significant other, then it can be difficult for the couple to remain emotionally engaged with one another.

Men Cheat Because the Chemistry Just Isn’t There (Reason #2)

Published on: March 4, 2011 | On behalf of Arnold & Smith, PLLC

According to the article by Match.com on Yahoo.com, men cheat because the chemistry just isn’t there. They cheat because the spark is gone in the relationship. According to the article, this can have much to do with a lack of physical attraction to the other person. For example, if the wife or girlfriend (hopefully only a girlfriend!) isn’t the guy’s type, it could lead to the guy losing interest and possibly cheating.

Men Cheat for Payback (Reason #1)

Published on: March 1, 2011 | On behalf of Arnold & Smith, PLLC

According to an article on Yahoo.com by Match.com, guys often cheat to try to get payback for their signficant other cheating. For example, a guy may find evidence that makes him think that his wife or girlfriend is cheating on him. This type of evidence might be a suspicious email or text message. Or, it could also be something like phone calls at odd hours.

5. Marriage is celebrity-endorsed.

Published on: February 14, 2011 | On behalf of Arnold & Smith, PLLC

According to Jeff Bridges, for has been married for an almost-unheard-of-in-Hollywood 33 years, “one of the things about staying married is just not getting divorced.” If that isn’t enough of an endorsement, the past year has shown us that most celebrities can’t resist tying the knot a time or two. For example, Hugh Hefner recently announced his engagement to 24-year-old Crystal Harris, who will become his third wife later this year.

4. Marriage is better for your reputation.

Published on: February 11, 2011 | On behalf of Arnold & Smith, PLLC

The past few years have demonstrated to all of us that people really enjoy reading about marital strife and breakdowns. Couples can air their grievances on social networking websites, such as Facebook and Twitter, and many people have chosen to vent through more revealing outlets, such as personal blogs. Recently, one Los Angeles Dodgers fan and law student decided to start a blog (www.dodgerdivorce.com) analyzing the legal issues and drama in the bitter divorce proceedings between Frank and Jamie McCourt, the Dodgers’ owners.

2. Marriage is better for your personality.

Published on: February 4, 2011 | On behalf of Arnold & Smith, PLLC

Researchers from Michigan State University recently reviewed a multitude of twin studies to discover that, among identical twins, the ones who got married were more socialized than the ones who didn’t marry.